Sense and Sensibilities: In light of Muslim awkwardness

"Can male and female relationships ever be platonic?" Many females when asked say they can be, whilst, males more so believe it not to be the case; with men indicating that at some point in time an attraction existed, which, then, led into a relationship albeit a platonic one.

Now if we look to Islamic teachings for guidance and answers, it is clearly shown that the likelihood of platonic relationships is not the way in which the religion was to be set or practiced.

In fact, a state of strong feeling is considered to be healthy. That is, we are to be angry at an injustice. To have feelings of love in close relationships, especially between a husband and wife. When none of these feelings are present, then there is a disconnect with the heart, sensibilities, and, in what is to be practiced for the sake of Allah.

Amongst possible reasons for this includes: oppression has become so commonplace and/or the level of 'haya ' or 'shame' is virtually no longer in existence. We are constantly being fed with pictures, advertisements or interacting with people where we have become numb to feeling and almost immune to a context, within, which, we may be placed.

Constantly checking with the heart and cleaning it out of impurities that come through visual images, hearing of incorrect dialogue without action is what is leading to a demise of, "Muslim awkwardness." Whilst awkwardness is awkward and shouldn't be the case;  it also shows that one is in touch with oneself.

Muslim awkwardness can be two fold: awkwardness when there is higher levels of shame and people (mainly of the opposite gender) cannot interact due to a higher level of consciousness; or when there is no awkwardness present and on lookers then judge or want to bring shame upon them; which then becomes awkward within itself.

Thus, finding that middle ground is most advisable. Having checks and balances within community can sometimes even be healthy. Whilst high levels of arousal are not recommended either, a good level of care and concern is where we should be at. Otherwise, a demise in relationships as they were programmed to be takes place. Perhaps, Muslim awkwardness isn't so bad after all.